Are You only Being Used as a Tool, by other People?
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by: GabrielAngelo
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There is no worse feeling of betrayal when you find out somebody who seems like you have a great connection is only using you because they want something.
What does it actually require to have an authentic connection?
Well, in any kind of relationship, either that is having a girlfriend, friends or even anybody, there has to be some exchange of value.
When somebody is giving away more value than is being reciprocated, they will feel like they are being used; and those who are leeching those values without reciprocating any value in return, are value-cravers; they constantly crave something from other people, and that is the only driving force they want to be in your presence.
Yet the thing is, if you don't have any value to give people, they don't really want anything to do with you.
The thing to make sure whoever is in your life isn't using you, you want to be sure your value given to them is slightly higher than what they are giving you back.
If they aren't offering any value back at all, just offer them slightly higher than nothing, and don't expect them to get more than that when they ask for more. That's the threshold you have in place.
Usually the biggest signs you can tell if you're dealing with value-cravers, who constantly ask for things without returning any favor when needed in the future, is that they tend to be unreliable and unreciprocal. When you actually need them, they abandon you and only reappear when they want what you have to offer again.
We're all familiar with how somebody was interested in the other person because they have more assets and connections, and those are tangible values; however, the most universal ideal values are intangible, the positive exchange of emotional values.
Think about this, if you don't possess any asset or tangible values they're interested, but they really enjoy and love being in your presence because they get this positive energy from you and that you offer great stimuli to them that make them feel great, they don't want to leave your presence.
About the Author
Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your "social skills" to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women...but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.
For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.
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